tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7657871530691531850.post8369310513031282151..comments2009-05-23T12:36:36.151+10:00Comments on Zombietronics: Hard to Definezombietronhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00690713472103969331noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7657871530691531850.post-88225472469372151542009-03-16T10:21:00.000+10:002009-03-16T10:21:00.000+10:00Sorry JT...I don't add people on facebook that I h...Sorry JT...I don't add people on facebook that I haven't met in real life. It's just how I roll.zombietronhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00690713472103969331noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7657871530691531850.post-22048329696023168322009-03-15T16:10:00.000+10:002009-03-15T16:10:00.000+10:00Ahh so that's why you ignored my FB friendship off...Ahh so that's why you ignored my FB friendship offer! <BR/><BR/>Sorry if I was one of those guys with no social skills *blush*Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7657871530691531850.post-48776047530962019652009-02-03T20:48:00.000+10:002009-02-03T20:48:00.000+10:00Ha...yep...guess who said that to me too.Ha...yep...guess who said that to me too.zombietronhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00690713472103969331noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7657871530691531850.post-63811949752750814692009-02-03T20:02:00.000+10:002009-02-03T20:02:00.000+10:00Geez, man, YOU try having the entire world telling...Geez, man, YOU try having the entire world telling you 'GONNA GET RAEPD' your entire life, and see how unexpected, unwanted 'friendliness' from strangers sits with YOU.<BR/><BR/>Petty my ass. Someone's privilege was showing. :(Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7657871530691531850.post-31991279264929490392009-01-23T01:37:00.000+10:002009-01-23T01:37:00.000+10:00I think more guys would understand why women feel ...I think more guys would understand why women feel weird about these situations if they read more stalker cases/articles that end horribly for the woman. Many times they begin this way; and the woman is just being friendly; nice; platonic and it takes off from there in the guy's mind. It's one thing to be paranoid, but it's another to feel justifiably cautious. This is something I am not really sure many men would "get".Gemhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04513613322991593085noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7657871530691531850.post-52311449795697143642009-01-21T14:23:00.000+10:002009-01-21T14:23:00.000+10:00I've encountered this a lot too, but mostly whenev...I've encountered this a lot too, but mostly whenever I have crazy coloured hair, something about it makes people think you're open game for conversation ALL THE TIME and don't mind being underhandedly complimented: "did you stay in the pool too long? looks like you used the wrong shampoo".<BR/>Good for you that you let them know you're uncomfortable, after all, how is anyone ever going to learn about limits when they're not shown?zombietronhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00690713472103969331noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7657871530691531850.post-44076419008580406912009-01-21T14:07:00.000+10:002009-01-21T14:07:00.000+10:00While a compliment from a stranger every now and t...While a compliment from a stranger every now and then is nice (ok, I'm lying, it's usually creepy...) having piercings & tattoos in 'modern' society makes a lot of people think they have the right to comment on my appearance. A lot of the time I get backhanded compliments, which I take begrudgingly, but sometimes strangers feel it within their right to touch my tattoo. I used to accommodate their curiosity, now I just back away and make it known that they're invading my personal space. <BR/><BR/>Every time I do that, the offender is, more often than not, offended that I have a problem with them (STRANGERS) touching my inner bicep. <BR/><BR/>Most people are oblivious to other's discomfort... I have no logical solutions, outside of the burqa... but unfortunately in this backwards town that would come with it's own set of oblivious neanderthals... :)tastyfakehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06163851157380428247noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7657871530691531850.post-76858204718911410042009-01-19T09:08:00.000+10:002009-01-19T09:08:00.000+10:00Haha...good point. I put that scenario forward to ...Haha...good point. I put that scenario forward to my boyfriend and he said "oh I've had it happen to me before. You just get over it."<BR/>I still don't think he can grasp the feeling at all, as he wasn't threatened or upset at all by it.zombietronhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00690713472103969331noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7657871530691531850.post-29226785681029963262009-01-19T06:16:00.000+10:002009-01-19T06:16:00.000+10:00I talked to my boyfriend about this post, and he a...I talked to my boyfriend about this post, and he asked, "What if the guy in the store was gay and told a man he hopes he comes back so he can see him again, has a pretty smile, or any of the other comments?" Interesting that I believe there would be very different reactions to that scenario about whether he was just being polite or socially awkward!Smirking Cathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15337751877658931171noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7657871530691531850.post-63728592859347569612009-01-18T19:22:00.000+10:002009-01-18T19:22:00.000+10:00Thank you so much for your comment Smirking Cat, y...Thank you so much for your comment Smirking Cat, you've put forward an idea I didn't think to go into, and you're absolutely right that these men know they can get away with it.<BR/>Your last paragraph is particularly great - it really isn't just being normal and polite anymore when that happens, it's looking for something more.<BR/>Thanks again.zombietronhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00690713472103969331noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7657871530691531850.post-91640642616076371812009-01-18T03:46:00.000+10:002009-01-18T03:46:00.000+10:00My experience has been that these are not sheltere...My experience has been that these are not sheltered men in dire need of some social training. They are men fully aware of the power differential, fully aware that being called out on their behavior can be brushed away as "What....I was just being friendly!", fully aware they are making the woman uncomfortable and enjoying that. <BR/><BR/>The "oh, the poor guy" attitude is way off base. And my options are not limited to running away or being polite. I have the option to be direct, blunt, and proactive by informing him to stop talking to me like that, stop calling me whatever pet name he has chosen, etc. <BR/><BR/>A lot of men depend on the way women are raised to be polite, just smile, don't defend herself, to get away with crossing boundaries and dropping respect when interacting with a woman.<BR/><BR/>Gentlemen: if a man called your wife or girlfriend "sweetness", or told her he misses her pretty smile, or asks her to stop by on certain days just so he can see her...is he still simply being polite?Smirking Cathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15337751877658931171noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7657871530691531850.post-16288072191371270892009-01-17T12:05:00.000+10:002009-01-17T12:05:00.000+10:00Thanks for that Boweh. I just listened to that Cur...Thanks for that Boweh. I just listened to that Cure song...it's awesome, very moody. I like the scream at the end too.<BR/><BR/>My point was like you said, that guys like that do NOT know how to talk to women, maybe all people, and the fact that they've made it to adulthood without ever learning social cues like most people is astounding. <BR/>You make it sound like they should be forgiven though, maybe I'm reading you wrong, but that's not how I feel at all. I shouldn't have to apologise when somebody else has not realised that they are making me uncomfortable.<BR/><BR/>As for making a decision to stop it happening...I can't really do that. I never initiate conversation, but I can't stop someone from talking to me. I just have to ride em out until I can find a way out.zombietronhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00690713472103969331noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7657871530691531850.post-82480617515385352562009-01-17T10:27:00.000+10:002009-01-17T10:27:00.000+10:00Attractiveness is a double edge sword. With this p...Attractiveness is a double edge sword. <BR/>With this point established, it must be said that men lacking in social and romantic skills (or just the pure art of talking to a woman) will be in low supply of actual quality conversations with the fairer sex over their lifespan. <BR/><BR/>Call this drivel, but yes, I understand where you are coming from. It's hard to fully understand as I don't have breasts for show, or the 'legs' or whatever does it for most creepies out there... But it's very interesting to note that men take any form of interaction as a compliment unless it's "fuck off". Think of it as some guy taking what he can get.<BR/><BR/>Women with warm tendencies to strangers can be misinterpreted by the man, where as to a woman friendly conversation is all that was made, and nothing more.<BR/><BR/>If I saw a girl I was attracted to at a bus stop I don't think I would hold back, but, I would be polite about it.<BR/><BR/>Everything, and I mean everything, from saying hello to having sex is a balance between the woman and the man. By men randomly chasing after you, they come off needy, as well as other obvious traits such as creepy or scary.<BR/><BR/>Best interactions are non needy, and flow both ways. What I mean by this is: you and the other person benefit from a a shared story, experience or meeting. All these things need small tweaks if you want to get it down right.<BR/><BR/>I'm just saying, these "guys" are totally unaware how ridiculously mis-calibrated they are, and that comes across to women as obvious as someone running down the street on fire.<BR/><BR/>And this is where you end up. Making a decision. How the fuck am I going to live my life day to day without getting hit on or coming across the wrong way to guys if I'm only intentionally saying hello and nothing more? Well you can ignore, disconnect, get angry and run... All of these options albeit harsh sounding are good. Saves you time telling every guy you're not interested, saves them the confusion of "is she interested in me?"<BR/><BR/>You can also be polite, but that takes time, and more explanation :)<BR/><BR/>Anyway, you should write a song about it.. kind of reminds me of a song by the Cure already.. the Subway song.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15140703249549121477noreply@blogger.com